I don’t believe in setting resolutions. Instead, I choose a word to help me focus for the year. And my word of the year for 2021 is evolve.
Looking back at the year that was
This past year has been hard. Really hard. Everyone has felt it; fear, frustration, failure. We’ve dealt with online school and no balance (or real division) between work and life, setting up makeshift offices, and have told each other we’re on mute more times than I can count! We’ve Facetimed grandparents, who at the start of the year didn’t even know what Facetime was. We baked, crafted, walked, ate, streamed, danced and watched movies. Oh, so many movies. And while we all had to pivot and change, I honestly think it’s done some good.
As a parent, I know that I would have never, ever had this much time with my kids. At 9 and 12, they are far from leaving the nest, but this is when they have their own interests and just want to focus on their friends and themselves. We got to laugh and dance and hang out with them, for more than just a couple of hours after dinner. There was no rushing out the door in the morning, making for more enjoyable and relaxed mornings. We tried new things, made up games and had some fun.
Don’t be disillusioned, we fought, cried, screamed and went to separate corners of the house too. Because 2020 has been heavy on everyone.
I’m grateful for the relationship I have with my husband. I eat lunch with him everyday, and we also know when to give each other space. Our relationship has proved that we can weather the storm of anything crazy, and balance each other out. I’m so happy he’s a handy guy and am in awe of the handywork he’s done to make our home better. I fully admit that my job was to get out of the way, but I am grateful he is okay with that too.
I know the year we’ve had isn’t over. And while the calendar will change, the state of the world will not. We are still in a pandemic, and I am still going to be safe and do my very best to keep all of those I care about safe too.
But there is still a sense of renewal. A hope that 2021 can be better. Because, if we don’t have hope, what do we have?
Make intentions, not resolutions
I honestly believe that we just need to keep going. We need to remember what is most important and try to make the best out of any situation.
Which is why I don’t make resolutions. I believe that they set you up for failure, because they don’t factor in the things you can’t control. A resolution, by definition is a firm decision to do, or not do something. And I think if 2020 has taught us anything, it’s that we need to learn to pivot. Nothing is firm. And everything can change.
I usually choose a word of the year. A word that I use to keep my intentions, to help me set – and reach my goals and to guide me throughout the year. It’s not just for my personal life, but my career and my blog.
In 2019, my word of the year was FOCUS. My intention was to centre myself, be more intentional and be more present with my family. To spend more time with them and create more memories. It was to focus on my health, as I had just had surgery on my foot and was looking to make healthier choices while healing. And to focus on my blog and push myself forward in new ways. To me, staying focused means to live your best life.
My word of the year in 2020 was DARE. I hoped to put myself out there more and to push myself outside of my comfort zone. I dared myself to have more patience with my kids and to have the courage to be a better wife. To put myself out there more at work and push my career further.
When the world changed, the priority became keeping my family safe, entertained and engaged with each other. Some days it was just to survive without a meltdown.
Up until a few months ago, I thought I had abandoned my intention. That my word of the year was a distant memory in a year that was anything but normal. But as I started to evaluate everything, I realized that maybe that word was with me all along.
I had received a lot more responsibility at work and had to focus on learning a new line of business. I had to make new partnerships, meet new people and learn this business all of that from home, virtually. And I was successful. I forged those relationships, completed some big projects and look forward to the work we will do together in 2021.
Parenting was my top priority, but so was being a better partner to my husband. Day in and day out, as we lived through renovations and a pandemic, we got creative. We loosened the reigns on bedtime and screen time. A lot of rules went out the window, as our main priority was ensuring everyone was safe and comfortable. And we spend A LOT of time together. But we found our groove. I dared to step back and relinquish control of baking, and cooking, of a lot of things. And I watched my kids problem solve, get creative and strengthen their bond with each other and with us.
And finally with my blog, while it was unfortunately one of the things that went on the back-burner first, I still put myself out there. I started sharing more self care posts, and I started doing some plus sized fashion posts. I started working with a local boutique who believed in what I have to offer, and I started seeing a positive response. It was so scary to do that, I’m no model, that’s for sure. But I belong in that space. I feel it in my bones. Sharing my feelings about the body positive movement, and how I’m learning to be more confident, both in front of and behind the camera makes me happy.
That is the tip of the iceburg. There will be more curvy content coming your way in 2021.
My word of the year in 2021 is evolve
And speaking of 2021, I have thought long and hard about what my word should be. What is my intention for a year that really is still unknown and full on uncertainty?
My word of the year for 2021 is: EVOLVE
- to make more complex; to develop.
- come forth gradually into being
My word of the year for 2021 is EVOLVE. If this past year has taught us anything, it’s that we have to change. We have to evolve.
And true evolution isn’t overnight. It take place slowly, gradually, over time. So that is why I hope to continue to develop my relationship with my family and friends. To strive to always be a better mother and wife. I will continue grow and further my career and my role. And I will keep putting myself out there with my blog. I will evolve my content to reflect the things that make me happy and bring me joy. It is time to come forth gradually into being.
It’s definitely time. I want to spark joy and be happy. Because if not now, when? We all should look for that in our lives!
What are you waiting for?
Tell me, what is your word of the year?