I’m in the midst of planning my Little Mouse’s Frozen birthday extravaganza and this is the first year we’ve invited her little friends from daycare. Only the girls and her boyfriend. She begged. She loves him, she said. She needed him to be there.
How could I say no?
So I carefully attached 13 invitations to 13 different cubby hooks at daycare and while there are still 4 more days until the final RSVP date, I’ve literally only heard from three kids. And one of them doesn’t even go to the daycare anymore.
I get it. You don’t know me. I drop my kid off early and D picks her up pretty early, so there may not be any interaction with us. You may not want to start the birthday merry-go-round in daycare and would rather wait until school starts in September. Perhaps your kid doesn’t speak about my kid, so you don’t even know who she is.
I totally understand.
But just let me know that you won’t be coming.
I’m not good with waiting. I never have been. This is why I put an RSVP date on the invitation. It has not only my phone number, which you may not want to call. You could text me instead? Or email me! I included that too! Hell, send me a smoke signal; but please send me an answer.
I’ve already lived through plenty of school parties for the Little Bird. Sh!t happens. You can’t make it. It’s okay. But please don’t decide to show up on the day, because that puts me in an awkward position. I’m not expecting you. I’d really rather not drag a bunch of extra loot bags just in case you show up. I’d rather not even make them to start with, if you’re not coming. I don’t want extra pizza and extra cake. I’d like to order what I need and that’s it. Not have to account for people that I’m not even sure will show up or not.
I would just like to know if you’re coming.
I asked nicely…
I included the ‘s’il vous plait’. I didn’t just say ‘respond’.
I know everyone is different, but consider how you would feel. I usually answer as soon as possible, because I would hate to forget and leave the parent wondering.
Aside from the fact that I have to order food, a cake and make loot bags, I need to buy snacks and plates and answer the Little Mouse each and every time as to who is coming to her birthday.
In the end, I really don’t think she’ll be too upset if they all don’t show up to her party. She’s pretty happy with the three who are already confirmed. She’ll also have her sister, cousins and friend’s kids there, so she’ll be busy. But it still would be nice to know.
I guess for now I’ll wait the four days and plan accordingly.